Wedding & Function
Wedding & Function

Have you picked the right people for your wedding party?

Picking the team that is meant to support and keep you calm during your wedding planning and the ceremony is no easy task. Selecting the people, who will essentially be your frontline in the “war of wedding planning” is a very important task.

Here is a guide to help you make sure you have the right people for the job

  1. Make extra sure of who you are asking

Once the position has been offered, there is no going back, make sure the people you select are completely up to the task and can handle the responsibilities you are entrusting to them. Give yourself a month to think over your list, ask yourself if these people will still be in your lives after five years or not.

  1. Create realistic and fair expectations

Think about the role you want the people in your wedding party to play. Is it important to you that they help to address wedding invites, dress shop with you and attend all of the pre-wedding parties? Or will it be enough for them to wear what you choose and show up the day of? If it's the former, think twice about asking friends or family who live far away or have extremely hectic schedules. The worst thing you could do is set yourself up for disappointment. 

  1. Make sure your siblings make the cut

It could be your own siblings or your future spouses, either way they will be around for many years after your wedding, so making them part of your wedding party will help you become closer throughout the years. Traditionally, it's ladies on one side and guys on the other, but feel free to break that rule and have them stand on either side of the aisle.

  1. How big is your wedding?

The more bridesmaids or groomsmen you have, the more people to coordinate with, find a flattering tux or dress for, and work around schedules with. The average wedding party size is eight to four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. Use that as a guide when you decide. Depending on formality, go larger or smaller.

  1. Don’t ask just to return the favour

You don't need to ask someone to be in your wedding because they asked you to be in their wedding. Don't ask the college roommate you haven't spoken to in five years just to return the favour. 

If they want to talk to you about why they aren't in your wedding, be completely honest. Explain that it was a tough decision but you really felt like you should have the people you feel closest to at this point in your life standing up for you, and there are so many of those people (including her) that you had to leave out some very special ones.